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Wednesday, October 26, 2011

It Takes a real Man...So he says

  OK I had to Blog this there was no way around it. I couldn't keep it to myself without sitting in the corner and giggling and every time I see the Carny I'd laugh out loud. I call him the Carny because the kids met him at a carnival and something about living with them, I don't know, I try to tune them out sometimes.

  So the other night I'm helping Choo make dinner we have teenagers all over the house inside, outside, and in Choo's kitchen there is Choo, Bean, the Carny, Shay and myself and Bean steps up ( we have a very open household ) and says mom did you get me tampons?

Uh Oh...

Mom (that's me): Oh crap I forgot!
Bean: Well can you go now?
Mom:  I don't wanna go now! I'm making dinner ask dad.

Choo behind me making washing dishes: I'm not going... I don't get those.
Mom: Ya... I know...
Bean: but mom I need them.
Mom: I'll give you money and you go get them.

Bean shakes her head emphatically: I'll get Al to go! ( Bean's boyfriend who's at home probably sleeping because he's borderline narcoleptic in my opinion )

Mom: You are not dragging him out here to go get you tampons!

As the bickering goes on back and forth for about a minute, Choo from the sink quietly says: It takes a real man to get tampons.

As I open my mouth to argue this point since he won't get ME tampons, now he's backtracking trying to stay out of trouble.

The Carny out of the corner puts his hand up: I'll go!

The silence is deafening as we all stare blankly at him and since we've only met this kid a couple of times...this seems really, really strange.

After I snapped out of my daze,

Mom: Choo give him money, Bean go get the box so he knows what to get you.
Choo: (snickering by the sink) Do you think he'll really get them?
Mom: Better him than us.

Bean comes back with the box,the Carny folds it to put in his back pocket.

Mom: Are you sure you want to do this?
Carny: Yup It's no big deal!
Mom: OK go to the drugstore they're cheaper there.

After the initial shock wore off when he left we couldn't believe this kid took off to get my daughter tampons...who knew!

He came back proud of himself and you know what I guess that makes him a real man.

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Walking Dead or Dead Walking?

    After a fun filled Sunday of watching the marathon of the Walking Dead to get ready for the premier I found out that my youngest daughter knows absolutely NOTHING about surviving a Zombie Apocalypse! How is this possible? I know it sounds stupid but yes I have a Zombie phobia. Is there a name for that?

    The Zombie walk in Vancouver every summer? I stay home that day. Someone would get hurt if I walked on the skytrain or up Granville and it was loaded with zombie loving, fake rotting flesh, costume wearing people. I heard about the people that were filming Resident Evil 4 in Ontario ( I think it was there) the platform they were standing on fell, 16 or so people got injured and the paramedics couldn't sort out the injuries. Well that's really convincing make-up.

   Now B ( my youngest ) knows this and has paid no attention whatsoever to my fear of the undead.

   Zombies creep me out!

   I don't care if they are possible or not, they creep me right the out, yet I have to watch every Zombie movie, TV show or anything associated with them. So you'd think that she'd get it but... she really doesn't.

   My oldest Sese and I have gone to great lengths discussing the possible rate of survival if this was to happen. Even her father has had the 'what if' conversation with us, you know the escape routes, possible weapons etc. and as much as I know and have watched documentaries on infectious diseases and their rate of infecting subject A or subject B, ( why I do this to myself I have no idea ) that things wouldn't happen as quickly as portrayed in the movies. So what it will happen slower? What happens in my head is that someone somewhere could be messing with that same exact thing thinking 'hey maybe we really could reanimate the brain, so just for shits and giggles let's try!'


I know! Just to freak us out or me the obvious target of the insanity!

   B asked me if she was a zombie if I'd kill her and I said " yes, yes I would! " With no hesitation. she said but don't you love me and I replied " yes I do that's why I'd shoot you " Now before some people I know get all hysterical about me shooting my daughter remember that for this she's a Zombie who is more than likely going to try and eat me.

I'm going to have to educate her and T some more because if I turned into a Zombie I'd sure as hell hope they shoots me...Sese will she's trained.

That was just a little something for Halloween, you know what's worse that Zombies?... Zombie Clowns them and their stupid shoes.


Thursday, October 13, 2011

Daily Dilemmas

    The past month has been one of sadness and reflection. It's time to move forward again and focus on the things that are prominent in my life right now... maybe just the stuff that sticks out right now. Like my zoo and the headache they give me, in a good way... sometimes before I have to lock myself in the bathroom with the bottle of wine hidden in the toilet tank to escape. Like these daily dilemmas for example:

  1. Washing the dishes means washing everything including the pots.
  2. If the straightener burns the carpet imagine what it's doing to your hair, ( and my carpet quit leaving it on the floor there's little V marks all over your room).
  3. No, you cannot have hair extensions because you burnt your hair.
  4. 4 women, 1 bathroom need I say more.
  5. For dad... yes you have to deal with PMS for an entire month.
  6. If one dog is staring at you and can't move? He needs to go out.
  7. If another dog is staring at you and whining? She needs to go out.
  8. If another dog is at the top of the stairs whining to get in? He's not ours.
  9. If you hear a double thud from the kitchen window... a cat brought something else in the house, find it, chase it and get rid of it.
  10. Quit making weird food I can't's weird and I won't eat it.   
Hmmmm boys might have been easier at least they get mad , explode, fight and it's over. Girls... we get mad, hurt, depressed and then plot revenge solve the problem.
Sugar and Spice.

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

In Memory of a Lost Son

   This one goes out to a very close friend who has the birthday of her first born son today but sadly he died of SIDS a short time later.

   I've known Kris literally my whole life and when she was pregnant with her son Tyler she was one of the happiest moms to be I've seen. He was born Oct 05, 1996 - Jan 15, 1997. Losing him cause a spiral in her family that almost didn't stop, one day at a time though she put the pieces together and started to rebuild her life.

    She's been pretty tough over the years and has lost 2 children now both boys Tyler to SIDS, Aiden was stillborn a few years ago( that's a whole other story ) and has a beautiful daughter Courtney who is now 12.  

    She talks about her sons  with love and pride always. She can talk about them all of the time and tries to get involved with projects to help get the word out about SIDS as well as still trying to understand why it happens. She came up with the easiest way to put it for me understand, that was that they simply forget to breath and it broke my heart to hear that. When she had Courtney she was scared for a really long time... even after the age of worry. I bet she still checks to see if she's breathing at night.

   She has been through alot since Tyler passed away and gotten tougher the whole way along. Aiden was her last and that almost broke her spirit but she didn't check out of life and reality, she took care of her family and continued on through investigating why these this are happening for her own comfort and knowledge.

   I am amazed by her and the strength she has on what would be his 15th birthday. I have posted this for her in memory of him to show her that we all still think about him at this time and am proud of her for every day she continues to put one foot in front of the other and move forward.

What is SIDS?

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) occurs when a baby dies suddenly while sleeping. It is also known as crib death. SIDS is most likely to occur in babies between 2 and 4 months of age, and the death remains unexplained even after a full autopsy.

The rate of SIDS goes down by half at 6 months of age, though it still happens up to one year of age. There are about 150 SIDS deaths in Canada each year, or 1 in every 2,000 live births. SIDS is still the leading cause of death of infants between one month and one year.

We know that baby boys are at a higher risk than baby girls. Other babies who seem to be at higher risk are premature babies and babies with low birth weight. SIDS occurs during all seasons of the year. There is no indication of a higher risk for babies who have had a SIDS brother or sister.

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant loss Remembrance Day. It's used to promote, support and educate grieving parents worldwide.

Remembering our Babies provides awareness for those who are suffering or may know someone who has suffered a miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, still birth or loss of an infant.

I am Mother to an Angel provides a support network and community for bereaved mothers.
For more information:

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Monday, October 3, 2011

To Do It or Not To Do It that is the question.

    As you know, my mother in law passed away a few weeks ago. Jackie was an avid reader, anything she could get her hands on she would read...wait that's wrong she wouldn't read everything, as long as it was Sci-Fi for Fantasy she was all over it. If it had a combination of both she was very happy. Jackie tried her hand at writing poetry and art, painting mostly and art ex which I knew absolutely nothing about until I met her. Some of her art hangs in our house and it wasn't well known that she had written a book as well.

    Many years ago she gave me her manuscript and asked me to look it over for her and I agreed to do some light editing for her. I found that she seemed to have the need to introduce and heavily detail of EVERY character she had in the story ( she has lots of things going on ) I was trying to help her narrow the field down a bit to her main and supporting characters. After awhile time got away from us and there was lots more to do. The story concept was interesting but she had lots to add and re-write that I don't think she ever did.

    When we were going through her house after she passed I found the notebook she used to jot down her story and her notes. Out of everyone there Mat and I were the only ones that knew that she wrote it ( he only knew because I told him ) The family was shocked, excited, proud and they even put it in the eulogy for everyone to know about.
    Now that things have settled down Mat asked me to go over it, do the re-writes and see if I could possibly get it published in her honour. Okay now I haven't even gotten my own stuff published yet and at least I know the direction she was going in because we talked about it a lot and I guess it's like co-writing without the physical other writer.  Between her manuscript and he notes she had I should be able to put it together in a way she would have liked.

She did her part already though didn't she?

    If I take this on that means the projects that I'm already working on will have to either share time or be put on the back-burner. I'll be multitasking because and don't want to put the script on hold and finding time when there aren't enough hours in the day will be interesting. My script has to come first and even though the researching and writing will have to be done for both of them her book will have to wait before I can put the attention needed into it. So that's on the agenda too.

 I can give up sleep right?

    Maybe not... The genre itself is different than I'm used to writing, hers is Sci-Fi based where mine just aren't. I think I can do it though with some outside consulting maybe it's the last thing that I can do for her.

I'll give it a shot and see what happens with both en devours. Hmmm I think I answered my own question.